Derek And Elena
Introducing, Derek and Elena, the newlyweds. Derek, a man from Scottland, and Elena, a woman from Ukraine met through one of our sister sites and are were just married this March. They are living proof that you can find the love of your life online and in another country. Here is their story.
An Interview With Derek
Why were you searching for a life partner abroad?
I originally started to look for a life partner abroad maybe seven years ago, after a divorce from a Scottish woman which left me feeling that maybe it was time to try non-Scottish/foreign women after some bad experiences with Scottish women and also because I enjoyed the company of foreign women on some of the many football related trips to countries across Europe. I ended up meeting and chatting to a few foreign women on different websites but there was a bit of a trust issue so I ended up seeing a Russian woman who already lived in the UK as this was much easier than travelling abroad to meet someone in another country that was difficult to reach by flying direct from Glasgow, in fact, two flights are needed to most eastern European countries apart from maybe Poland…..!. This relationship lasted for six years but there were some issues and it ended badly, although this did not put me off foreign women as I did not think that the Russian woman I met was typical of foreign women, so this is why I wanted to try Ukrainian women after this relationship ended. Straight away, I was finding Ukrainian women to be more friendly, trustworthy, honest and genuine which is what I had hoped for so it made me want to meet one of them to see if this was in fact true.
What are the main advantages and disadvantages of Ukrainian Women?
The main advantages that I have found are that they are friendly, honest, genuine and trustworthy, say exactly what they are thinking and don’t mind talking about important and intimate things early in the relationship in order to get to know someone better. They also generally look after themselves much better physically than British women in terms of weight, fitness, and appearance which all help in making them more attractive to your average man. They are also prepared to and expect to relocate, given the right circumstances and also more ready to visit the UK after someone has already visited them in Ukraine. Disadvantages – only real disadvantages relate to the difficulties in getting to the country in terms of flights there to visit/meet up and also the long and extended visa applications that need to be gone through for visitor, fiance or spouse visa applications and the associated requirements in terms of financial, health, English language and other requirements. Clearly, there are some “bad apples” with some Ukrainian women only after a relationship that will give them a nicer place to live but this can happen with any nationality and not only Ukraine….!
How long were you chatting online before deciding to come and meet in person?
Olena knows this better but think it was only about a couple of months or a few weeks before I decided that I wanted to meet Olena in person so quicker than I had anticipated, but we managed to cover a lot of things early in e-mail communication and found that really we had a lot in common so it got to the point that I felt that if I did not visit Olena then I would regret this decision for the rest of my life…….I was not so sure about traveling to Ukraine, so we agreed to meet in Germany when Olena visited her sister in August 2017, after starting to communicate in June 2017.
What did you feel on your first date?
I felt that as soon as I met Olena, she was completely like I had expected and hoped for and it was clear that she had not lied about anything which was one of my biggest concerns but I did not need to worry as we got on really well from the first moment that we met. Although Olena thought that her English was not at such a good level, there was not too many communication misunderstandings and with time she got more used to my Scottish accent which was harder for her to understand sometimes compared to English.